Terms & Conditions

Coaching is partnership (defined as an alliance, not a legal business partnership) between the Coach and the Coachee in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires the client to learn sometimes deeper aspects about themselves their life, and their potential to progress.

They are sessions to learn new skills and how to use tools that maximise personal, relational, and professional potential in the real world.

It is designed to facilitate the creation/development of personal, professional or business goals and to develop and carry out a strategy/plan for achieving those goals.
 

The coachee is responsible for determining what is the key area of focus for any given coaching session and the coach will work to that agenda.

If the agenda starts to move away from the outcomes that the coachee has identified, the coach will bring this to the coachee’s attention, and ultimately it is for the coachee to determine the focus.

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Sessions may facilitate a connection to your own lived truths and experiences, and to potential emotions that haven't been connected with, felt, processed or expressed in a long time (if at all), this is all okay - any and all emotions are welcome within sessions and handled with respect.

• Hypnosis is a joint process between you and the therapist in which you use your imagination – alongside hypnotic skills taught by the therapist – to bring about positive emotional and behavioural changes, aided by suggestion

• Hypnotic suggestion is a way of experiencing helpful ideas at a level deep enough to directly influence emotions and behaviour.

• Psychological and emotional problems can be the result of negative thinking; hypnotherapy aims to encourage (“suggest”) positive ideas that lead to improvement of deeply rooted patterns.

• Rather than a “trance”, hypnosis can be described as an increased ability to focus on a single idea or notion in a deeply relaxed and peaceful state.

• Hypnosis is a skill that can be learnt – to be as effective as possible, you must be motivated, have positive expectations and allow yourself to be part of the hypnotic experience.

• Thousands of positive experimental and clinical research studies on hypnosis have been published and it’s been recognised as an effective treatment by the British Medical Association (BMA) since the 1950s.

• Hypnosis supports a mind-body connection that enhances an ability to be in touch with the subterrain levels of one's own psyche.

• As humans, it is  only use up to 10-12% of our conscious mind, leaving 88-90% of our subconscious mind! 
  
  "Current scientific estimates are that some 95 percent of brain activity is unconscious, says Emma Young in New Scientist magazine. These include habits and patterns, automatic body function, creativity, emotions, personality, beliefs and values, cognitive biases, and long-term memory.
   

• Hypnosis is not a state of sleep or unconsciousness.

• Hypnosis is not a state of mind control. You cannot be made to do anything against your will.

• Hypnosis is completely safe when used in a responsible and professional manner. You can’t get “stuck” in hypnosis.

• Comedy stage hypnosis is very different to clinical hypnotherapy and should be viewed as such.

• Hypnosis doesn’t increase the accuracy of your memory and can’t enable exact re-experiencing of events.

• Mindfulness is the ability to be fully present in the current moment. Becoming aware of thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations without judgment. A learned skills that enables people to observe their thoughts, feelings, emotions, senses and memories, without getting caught up in them or reacting automatically.
   

• Being mindfully aware is about paying attention to what is happening right now, whether as an internal experience or external experience, rather than being caught within habits, patterns or loops of dwelling on the past or fretting about the future. (without mindful awareness, our mind may be doing this automatically and distracting us away from clearer, more useful thoughts, and a deeply present moment experience, with which we often long for when caught 'chasing' for experiences. We are longing to feel the fleeting sense of 'being in the moment'. In pure flow.
  
  The learned skill is becoming able to take a step to the side of our current automatic experience, and to notice our internal/external experience - as it is - without judgment, and instead as a directly present, moment by moment experience.
   

• Imagine the experience of gently bringing your own focus of awareness, back to the very present moment by will, each time you catch yourself aimlessly in your mind, or catch the mind wandering, or seemingly out of nowhere you're 'nudged' by an emotion in your concious awareness - what do you do? Sense the emotion, within the present moment, and remain in the present moment without getting too sucked into the emotion, or the minds narratives. Trust, that this rest of being in the present moment whilst sensing an emotion will yeild greater contemplation, with less effort, struggle or wrestling to be done.
   

• To pay attention to these signs, and to focus our awareness to to the present moment whilst all of this is going on, is to become mindful. This practice, if repeatedly practiced eventually becomes more and more automatic, second nature and habitual. And begins to re-shape and form our minds and lived experience towards a healthier and stable sense of mature 'wholeness' within our being.
   

• Why would I want to practice this skill? This skill can allow us to choose for ourselves, the best responses and actions that we can to any given moment, at any given moment, moment by moment - even when highly stressed or anxious, or if we're being really tested or challenged by 'life', people or any circumstance we find ourselves.
  
  When we've practiced mindfulness, and become more skilled and efficient, we can begin to effectively 'see, sense and be more'. Our inner vision widens. Our senses become sharper. And we may seemingly begin to have greater amounts of options, from which we can also make wiser decisions. Whether for ourselves, or when collaborating within partnerships, or within groups and teams. This also including leaders or bosses and business owners, anyone who may have accountabilities and levels of responsibility for the lives of others.
  
  This is because we are no longer acting, or reacting, purely upon our own emotional energy, or from others, or from false thoughts or 'blind faith' - or a combination of all of this. We can begin to instead, respond, and act with our emotions, as if they're right beside us. Our emotions aren't the equation or answer, they instead can form a healthier part of the equation as a steady, stable and secure human being.
  
  Emotions become a part of a wider 'truth' so to say, because what we gain is an all round greater depth, width and range of perspective. We can take in more information and nuanced details, from which we can generate greater comprehension within our abilities to process, hold and carry information and nuanced details, mindfully and wisely.
  
  Our wider depth and range of truth can often be what's also in line with others 'truths' - from which, we can begin to form healthier relationships, attachements and mature bonds with others. Not because we 'think alike' or always share the same thoughts/feelings/emotions in the same way and at the same time (although great if or when we do ever have these kind of experiences with another), because two or more people are able to hold perspective, of their own and anothers experiences/memories/thoughts/feelings/senses, and share brilliant forms of unique communication and converse in great conversations that are held and carried with value and worth.
   

• Without learning this skill. We may tend to experience our thoughts, senses and emotions, a little too directly. When experiencing our thoughts, senses and emotions, a little too directly, we may instead struggle to regulate and settle our whole nervous system. In turn, if we are unable to regulate or settle our whole nervous system effectively, we aren't able to find our deepest experience of homeostasis, and a truly sensed experience of equilibrium - that all is 'okay' within ourselves, and the world.
  
  Without discovering homeostasis within, it's surely more difficult to discover a sense of equilibriam and homeostasis on the outside, in our external lives. 
  
  Deep equilibrium > Regulated nervous system > Emotions and thoughts experienced and centred > Memories, resolved = A focused and balanced present life /(Wholeness) > Peace internally and externally.
   

• Our emotions and sense can, with training and consistent practice, become a peaceful and enjoyable part of our lived experience. Instead of supressed, avoided or glanced over. Or on the other side, becomoing too 'locked in' and anxious, or swaying somewhere between the both, or in or out or up or down, left to right by the continious changing tides of emotions waves of feelings.
  
  Instead there becomes an opening, an ability and invitation to observe all of our own and others lived experience, memories, present moment thoughts/senses/feelings, very neutrally. In balance. And centred.
  
  Often this experience may lead to wiser and more loving responses and actions - because we are able to finally process our overloading sensory fuelled experience, moment by moment. Naturally, without effort.

Meditation is a practice where one trains their mind and awareness.
 

• Focus and awareness: A core aim is to develop an ability to focus attention, and come to a state of awareness of thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations. 

• Quieting the Mind: It's often described in this way to prepare the mind to become quiet and still, to achieve a state of calmness and awareness, it's not about completely stopping thoughts flowing.

• Letting go of judgment: A key part of meditation is observing thoughts and feelings, without judgment. This allows one to 'see' more clearly and gain greater perspective.

• Acceptance and embracing: The entirety of life, our lives, and all of our experiences.

• Contemplation: When meditating, we can discover ourselves beginning to naturally contemplate. This is a highly different experience than 'thinking' or 'dwelling' on thoughts.

• Many more techniques: There are many different meditation techniques, some focusing on the attention of the breath, others repeat mantras (a calming word or phrase), others simply observe the surroundings. All experiences support us to become deeply self and other aware.
   

Imagine the mind is a busy marketplace. Meditation is like sitting down in a quiet corner of that marketplace, and observing all the activity going on without getting swept up in it.

When we train ourselves to focus our awareness in this way. We become aware of an experience that's like sitting in the corner of a maketplace, and observing all acitvity that is going on in within our own every day experience - and this can greatly begin to enhance many aspects and facets of our own lived experience and lives.

Think of mindfulness as a muscle. Meditation is the workout that strengthens that muscle. 

To grow and strengthen our muscles, we must grow within our own capacity to hold, embody and process the information that comes through when we step into meditation. 

Meditation is a powerfully profound technique that supports our lives in many ways, however for some with challenging backgrounds, without tools to regulate the nervous system, some may have internally challenging experiences being inside their minds, as a lot of content may find it's way closer to the surface of ones concious mind.

However, held well and with the teaching of appropriate skills and the more one learns about meditation and finds their own community to meditate with and learn from others, the easier it becomes to be mindful in everyday life. In turn there becomes the ability to be living in a conciously healthier, balanced, stable and secure way.
 

Imagine mindfulness as being generally aware of your surroundings. Meditation is like focusing your attention on a specific object in those surroundings.
 

In short, mindfulness is the what (the state of being present), and meditation is the how (the practice to achieve that state).

The why? ... that is a long list! Instead, I invite you to discover your own why, for yourself. :)