Who I Am.

I grew up inside succesful family run businesses - but behind the scenes was chaotic and abusive. My childhood was marked by the miss treatment of emotional connection and communication, instability, and subsequent deep betrayal and fraud at the hands of my father, followed by his eventual abandonment. In my early 20's my fathers secret second life, and the many years of dishonesty came to the surface, and almost over night I lost my business, my finances, my home, my family, and the already little safety and security I had - I was left with a very large hole in the fabric of my existence and life.

My early start in life began with an unknown amount of years ahead living with inner turmoil, deep rooted confusion, anger and suffering as I came to find myself 'in my head' having lost everything - including my family, myself, and all of my future hopes and dreams.

I didn't have people around at the time who I could openly grieve with, feel safe with, trust or open up to, let alone those who could provide any level of advice, support and understanding with such deeply painful matters. I entered into deep states of confusion and survival. I become aware of the patterns and cycles of hurt, pain and trauma, and how we unconsciously pass our own pain and misstreatment onto others - and I wanted to break this 'trauma chain'.

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Music, art and nature became my first language of trauma recovery. I was a passionate singer-songwriter, performing and recording with various bands. Writing, recording and gigging became a way to express what I couldn’t yet fully articulate, express or say out loud. A true highlight was recording with a close friend at the legendary Abbey Road Studios - it was moments like this that I could let out my energy and inner pain, as well as escape from my current lived reality and life plans in the midst of deeply heavy times.

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During some of my darkest years, it was music, nature, adventure sports, and moments of true, genuine, empathetic connection with my closest friends that quietly held me together. When I had no idea how I was going to be able to move forward, these spaces gave me just enough love, fun, joy, care, kindness and safety (along with some great catharsis) to keep going and moving forward in better and healthier ways.

 

Eventually, I found the strength and courage to reach out to a Hypnotherapist - this step marked the very beginning of my deeper journey back to myself and towards life - and most importantly, this marked a conscious step for me to compassionately begin adjusting to my new life and how to live with such deep painful lived experiences and the way things had all come to be - I had a lot of anger and hurt to ride through - and it certainly took a lot for me to uncover and discover deeper inner courage, compassion, love and respect for myself, and an honouring of my life, to release the anger and suffering, and to pick myself up again. (I didn't want for myself to be just another typical overly masculine, angry and abusive type of guy')

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I explored many forms of psychotherapy and counselling, and whilst very helpful, most of the time I found myself going around in my head and in circles.

 

I came to discover coaching, and more pro-active, holistic and intuitive approaches to personal recovery, well-being and growth through integrating embodied self-awareness, compassionate meditation, mindfulness, presence and spiritual insight into my trauma-recovery journey.

Coaching support helped me gain many practical tools and solution-focused strategies whilst developing a forward-thinking, action-oriented expansive mindset, allowing me to take greater control and management of myself and my life so that I could create real, deeper lasting and more productive and positive changes.

 

I couldn't have got to where I am today all on my own - I required a whole new support system to help me develop a new mindset and approach to life, who would champion me to succeed whilst up against it all. I've been fortunate to meet people who took their time to deeply understand me - beyond my pains, hurt and suffering, and have helped me emotionally connect in healthier ways and towards my personal goals of living a happier, healthier and more peacefully interconnected life. 

 

Over time, I trained and became educated in the very modalities and tools that helped me recover and grow: From trauma-informed practices, embodied processing and somatic work, mindfulness, hypnotherapy, NLP, and other integrative coaching, therapy and mentoring practices.

 

I now support others in various ways. I see peple for who they really are, even when they may not yet be able to fully see themselves, and I enjoy championing others when they may not yet be a strong champion for themselves, or have anyone else in their corner they can trust or deeply open up with.

 

I personally know just what a difference this deep level of authentic support can truly make in our lives, relationships. and to our mental health and emotional well-being. 

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"The circle and cycles of life will continue, regardless.

We're each faced with the choice - to continue internalising, projecting and repeating our own internal pain, hurts and suffering onto others and into the world - or to take a little time, deeply getting to know ourselves. Re-learning how to best manage our life and relate peacefully, expressing with deeper love, joy and intimacy".